3 Tips On How To Have Tough Conversations In Life

We all have topics to discuss which may seem more difficult than others. These are seen with jobs, relationships, finances, or even friendships. They are never pleasant, but most would agree they are crucial. Without these tough conversations, important information may be missed or misconstrued. So what are some key points to know when delving into these conversations?

1 Stay Calm

This may seem like an obvious choice, but it can go many ways. Sometimes individuals want to keep the conversations positive and upbeat when discussing hard topics. This can come across as demeaning or apathetic towards the topic at hand. Obviously the negative aspect of this would be to overreact and act rude. Although the topic may be frustrating to discuss with the person, nothing constructive will come from acting in a coarse manner. Your best course of action is to stay calm. It will not only ensure you do not overreact, it will also deflate any anger or frustration from the other party.

2 Keep An Open Mind and Don’t Get Defensive

If you are bringing an issue to a person, chances are you are going to upset them in some fashion. Although you may think you are in the right, keep an open mind about what they have to say. There is always a chance neither of you are right and it can be resolved easily. If you are confronting someone and they get upset, do not get defensive. Remember when others are upset they tend to fight back, and you will be their target. This is a natural response. Try to avoid getting defensive and lashing back with an attack even harder. This type of monologue will not foster the type of resolve you are looking for. Let them speak! What is the worst that can happen? They may say stuff to you that you do not agree with or you do not think is true.

3 Follow Up With The Person and Be Willing To Learn As Well

It is easy to tell someone they screwed up or they hurt your feelings. This will probably not resolve the matter entirely. There is a significant probability they are going to cause you harm or screw up again! You will be right back at them with a difficult conversation. The cyclical effect will continue until you break the cycle. You have to be willing to follow up with them BEFORE there is another issue. Ask them if there were other questions, or if perhaps there was something you were doing to contribute to their actions. Once you get an answer, be willing to accept it. You need to be willing to learn and grow just as you are asking them to. No two people are the same. Thus, you cannot expect someone else to react or understand in the same manner as you do. Learn to adapt and adapt to learn.

I hope these three quick tips will help you during the more difficult conversations you may have to have in life!